Quote+Log

=Quotes from "Best Friends, Worst Enemies"= 

Chapter One - An Invitation to a Birthday Party

 * //"My daughter's twelfth-birthday was a nightmare . . . My daughter, Joanna, now sixteen, has long forgotten that party."// (3) 1181331913
 * //"Being a parent means being helpless a lot of the time,"// (7) 1181331913
 * //". . .parents either overreact to a child's social difficulties or don't react strongly enough . . . It's not easy - and research confirms that parents have some difficulty responding appropriately to their child's social dilemmas."// (9-10) 1181331913

Chapter Two - Family Matters

 * //"Research suggests that the quality of the first attachment has a profound impact on how children later get along with friends, perform in school, and react to unfamiliar situations."// (15) 1182211840
 * //"She believes that parents don't socialize children; children socialize children."// (17) 1182211840
 * //"So insecurely attached children are not doomed to a life of desperation, withdrawal, clinging, aggression, or insecurity, but they may need some additional help negotiating the complex terrain of the social world."// (19) 1182211840
 * "//One of the things I've gotten to do as a father is be silly, roll around on the floor, and lose my dignity. That attitude of being a little more lighthearted and taking everything less seriously has filtered through to the rest of my life."// (21) 1182211840
 * "//Secure attachment helps children cope with these universal and awful scenarios and helps them maintain a sense that the world is basically a safe and nurturing place,"// (25) 1182211840

Chapter Three - Children and Friendship

 * "//What do these young people tell one another? What are they saying? . . .I can tell you something about what is in their hearts: thoughts about themselves, fears about their future, disgust with adults, and most especially secrets about theri lives with their parents.//" (54) 1182999877

Chapter Four - When Kids Have Friends

 * //Friends are as important to young adolescents as parents are to infants . . .teen-agers are driven by a need for intimacy to devote themselves to close friendships.”// (61) 1184349244
 * //Does every child have a single best friend?// Should //every child have such a friend? . . .As in so many other matters pertaining to children and their relationships, the answer begins with “It depends.” . . .Some children are comfortable and satisfied with a single, intimate friend.// (63) 1184349244
 * //“chumship” – a close, intimate, mutual relation with a same-sex peer. . . [it] offers the first opportunity “to see oneself through the other’s eyes” and to experience true intimacy.// (65) 1184349244
 * //Close friends serve as informal classrooms. Good friends teach each other through example, through collaboration, and through conflict. . . both cooperation and conflict actually occur more easily in friendships than in other social contexts.// (67) 1184349244